Whether or not I am giving a narcissist what they want depends on the specific narcissist and the situation. In general, narcissists crave attention, admiration, and validation. They may seek this out from others in various ways, such as
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Engaging in attention-seeking behaviors
Narcissists may engage in attention-seeking behaviors such as bragging about their accomplishments, fishing for compliments, or making dramatic statements.
Manipulating others: Narcissists may use manipulative tactics such as guilt-tripping, gaslighting, or belittling others to get what they want.
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Exploiting others
Narcissists may exploit others emotionally or financially to fulfill their needs.
If a narcissist is using any of these tactics, it is important to set boundaries and protect yourself from emotional harm. However, it is also important to remember that narcissists are individuals with complex personalities, and their motivations may not always be clear-cut. Sometimes, a narcissist may simply be seeking genuine connection or validation.
Ultimately, the question of whether or not you are giving a narcissist what they want is difficult one to answer definitively. It depends on the specific narcissist and the situation. However, by being aware of the signs of narcissistic behavior and taking steps to protect yourself, you can reduce the likelihood of being exploited by a narcissist.
Some additional tips for interacting with narcissists
Be assertive
Don't be afraid to say no to a narcissist's requests.
Don't take their criticism personally
Narcissists often criticize others to make themselves feel better. Don't let their negative comments get to you.
Don't try to change them
Narcissists are unlikely to change their behavior, so don't waste your time trying to change them.
Focus on your own well-being
Take care of yourself and don't let a narcissist drain your energy.
If you are concerned that you may be in a relationship with a narcissist, it is important to seek professional help. A therapist can help you assess the situation and develop a plan to protect yourself.